National Coming Out Day (NCOD)
So today (or tomorrow here in the UK - why the hell can’t it be the same day?!) is National Coming Out Day, an awareness day for coming out of the closet, or discussions regarding gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender issues.
It’s great to know that they is a huge community out there who can offer support and advice to people who are considering coming out, or simply have questions to ask. It’s important that a person comes out in their own time, on their own terms. It’s not something that can be forced upon someone, coming out can be a really really big deal.
I haven’t come out. I have no intention of doing so in the future. It’s not that I’m scared of my parents reactions, and I’m pretty sure my friends wouldn’t be bothered. I think I just want to avoid being labelled. I have only had one girlfriend. We were together for 3 and a half years, and have only recently separated. We managed to keep the relationship secret for the whole time (mostly because she was from a Catholic family, so major taboo.)
I think if someone had discovered and forced our outing, we both would have been horrified. We spend hours discussing whether we should tell people, but we just got so used to living in our little bubble that we didn’t want to share it with anyone else. We were completely in love and that was nobody else’s business. On the down side, it did mean that she always had people coming onto her, because they didn’t know she was off limits.
My point is this, if coming out is all you can think about and you have a burning need for people to know, then do it. There are millions of people out there who have taken that leap of faith and have been caught with open arms. There is support out there, and you will find someone who thinks, feels and loves just the same as you. Just don’t give up - that’s the worst thing you could do.